NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS

There is something that I have had to realise and it seemed to take me a long time to come to this point and I thought I would share it today for whomever may benefit from it. The common denominator in my life is me. If I wanted things to change and to be different then I had to make those changes. No amount of programs, support, love and kindness from others or any other thing could change my outcomes in life until I believed that I was worthy of good things, I deserved to live a life in a body that was going to serve me well and that I deserved to be dedicated to my own personal development. It wasn’t selfish to care about my wellbeing. I always put everyone else first and left my needs until the very last thing that I had the energy for. I had to make some changes, even after my weight loss surgery, to have the strength to be able to walk the healthy life I wanted to have. I had to let go of old mindsets that didn’t serve me well. I had to get excited about my future and that was scary for me. I was frightened that I might fail but eventually I decided that I was going all in and giving myself one more chance at being excited about my life! You deserve that. If you are here deciding to change your life can I encourage you to be excited about your life. I remember wanting someone to help me, wanting someone to save me, I wanted it to be easier and it felt so fricken unfair that it was hard because I had already done a lot of hard things but the truth is that I was the knight in rusty armour that my story needed, and I did not swoop in on a white stallion and sweep myself off my feet. I kind of rode in on a donkey – Fell off said donkey into a steaming pile of poo and then realised “well shit! I seem to need to be my own hero in this story – that fucking sucks but yeah I will try to play this part” And that is what I did until I realised that I wasn’t playing anymore!! Don’t focus on the things that happen that are bumps in the road. It is a bit like driving a car. When we are driving, we know that we are in control and we keep our eyes on the direction that we are going in don’t we? What would happen if we stopped focusing on where we are going because a bug hit our windscreen and we decided to stare at that instead of where we are going? We would crash. What would happen if we were driving along and we suddenly decided “Nope, today I am focusing on the rear vision mirror – I am not looking on where I am heading and I am focusing on what is behind me!” Well we would crash again. Imagine what would happen if we were driving along and came to a bump in the road and decided “Nope thats it, that was a bump, I need to stop now, my journey is over and I am getting out of this car and just sitting next to the bump and here I will stay until someone can promise me a bump free road” I guess you can see where I am going with this? You are driving your car and you get to decide where you go today. You get to decide how you fuel yourself, you get to decide what you focus on and how you are going to do your Wednesday. The bugs on the windscreen of your life will come,the bumps in the road will come, the desire to stare in the rear vision mirror will come but you are ready for your future, you know where you want to go and you also know how to get there. Lets do today in the most uplifting and kind way for ourselves that we can. Lets be quick to forgive ourselves and be excited for what is to come. Love you guys x